This is my second installment in my #fangirlyourfriends series! If you haven’t read the other post yet, take a second to pop over and read it to get some background. Then come back and hear about how Katie is fangirling her friend Heather this week!
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When Krista presented the idea of a series of #fangirlyourfriends posts, I knew immediately that I wanted to participate. And I also knew who I wanted to write about. I have this friend who I’ve known for more than 6 years now. In that time, we’ve only lived close to each other for a total of 18 months. Nine months after we met, she moved to Oklahoma for two years. And nine months after she moved back to Pennsylvania, I moved to Georgia.
But somehow, despite the distance… and maybe even because of it… we’ve managed more than maintaining our friendship. It’s deepened and strengthened into something beautiful and life-giving. And for that reason, I’ve chosen Heather as the friend I want to fangirl about.
I decided the best way to do this would be those acrostics we all did as kids. You know—the ones where you take each letter of your name and pick a word that starts with that letter to describe yourself.
Here’s mine about Heather.
H – Human
Right now Heather is married, raising two kids, working as an in-home caregiver, and pursuing a nursing degree. Yet even with all those things happening, she’s the first to admit that she’s human. There’s no attempt to be Super Woman. She simply works hard to accomplish what she can get done in a day. She has her priorities set: love her husband, love her kids and keep them alive, care for her clients, get her schoolwork done. There’s a lot of craziness in this season which means dishes and laundry may not get done as regularly as she’d like. Meals may not be as healthy or gourmet as she’d like. Quality time with her husband may not come as often as she’d like. But it’s ok because that’s the reality of being human. And Heather lives in this reality quite well—not perfectly, but well, because that’s what it means to be human.
E – Encouraging
Heather is probably the most encouraging person I know. She sees and calls out the good stuff in everyone she knows. In the hundreds of conversations we’ve had over the years, she’s helped me see countless times where I’ve grown and changed for the better. Which is good because I suck at seeing those things for myself. I know I am who I am today in part because of Heather’s encouragement. In times when I would have given up, she’s spurred me forward with Spirit-filled truth and love. I know I’m not alone in being able to say that about her.
A – Awkward
I’m not sure I can count the times I’ve heard the phrase “I’m awkward” come out of Heather’s mouth. And she is awkward… in the most endearing way. It’s a huge part of the “being human” thing I talked about earlier. She delights in being who she is and makes no attempt to be anything else. It has the most freeing effect on the people around her because it means we can be ourselves, too. Her awkwardness creates a safe space.
T – Tenacious
Despite hearing the word ‘tenacious’ a lot, I wasn’t totally sure what it meant. When I looked it up, I discovered phrases like “holding fast” and “holding together” along with words like “persistent” and knew I could use it about Heather. Her life has not been easy or smooth-sailing. But she’s been persistent through it all, pressing forward through grief and set-backs and discouragement. More importantly, she’s held fast to her faith in a God who loves and cares for her. It’s a faith that has grown with questioning and doubting and conversing about the hard things. And because of that, it’s a faith that holds her together even when the rest of her world seems to be falling apart.
H – Humble
Heather might be the most humble person I’ve ever met. And it’s a real humility that invites you in and makes you feel safe. She’s real and transparent in ways that allow others to be vulnerable and open with her. She’s the first to admit she doesn’t have it all figured out. She apologizes when she doesn’t get it right with the people in her life. She doesn’t expect perfection from her friends because she knows she isn’t perfect herself. She can admit to, laugh at, and learn from her mistakes. That is true humility.
E – Enthusiastic
When Heather gets excited about something, you know it. Her enthusiasm is palpable even over the phone. And the list of things she gets excited about is long: her family, Doctor Who, gatherings of her friends, Fall, vacations at the beach, Game of Thrones, phone calls, Hunger Games, baking things. You can’t help but get excited with her. I love it.
R – Remarkable
The dictionary says ‘remarkable’ means “notably or conspicuously unusual; extraordinary; worthy of notice or attention.” Heather is all of these things. She is unapologetically unique which makes her unusual in this world of people wanting to fit in. The way she lives and loves is extraordinary. The grace she pours out on the world around her is most definitely worth of notice. She is a remarkable woman and I’m glad to call her my friend.
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Heather! You sound like an amazing friend and I love seeing you come to life through Katie’s words. You are so special and the kind of friend we all should have at least one of. Keep living live in such a remarkable, wonderful way! <3
You can find more of Katie’s writing over at her blog, Beauty Restored. May her words encourage you to fangirl your own friends!